Live with an Open Heart by Guest Blog Writer, Sandy Myers CPC

  I met my husband right before I turned 30 years old. The journey to find love took  a LONG time, but well worth the wait. I had a lot of fear and trust issues due to the pain of unresolved issues from the past. My mind was toxic and I felt stuck in a rut in the relationship department. Why was I single? Singleness is not a curse, by any means, but I longed for companionship. Why could I not believe love would find me? These painful areas of my life caused me to be narrow minded, blinded and jaded. My mentality leaked out into my attitude. It came out during “attempted” relationships and I quickly realized that these areas needed to be resolved. I looked for a relationship with the best intentions, in hopes of newness and romance, but my heart was closed. The key to my answer came in mastering the art of loving myself. I am not referring to prideful self-absorption, but a celebration of my worth and value, freedom from my past, and breaking away from a negative false sense of identity.

The past does not dictate your future. Past hurt or failed relationships do not have to be stumbling blocks. These “failures” or “disappointments” are simply avenues to healing and personal wholeness. There are certain seasons designed for introspection and personal encouragement. Your life at some point will demand you to opt out of living with a closed heart. Thriving is all about blooming and opening your heart to an exceptional life. I love the truth behind this quote: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” – Anaïs Nin. Is it your season to ”Open Your Heart”?

Before the right person came into my life, I had to get things right within me. Insecurity often robbed me of opportunities to build healthy relationships with the opposite sex. No one would know how to show me love until I discovered my strengths and was open to the love I deserved. I read a FABULOUS book that changed my life back in 2007 entitled, “The Path”, by Laurie Beth Jones. This book helped me to embrace the mission of my life. The activities in the book allowed me to write about my character, along with qualities of my ideal relationship. This valuable reading taught me how to tap into faith and visualize the life God wanted for me. I wrote in a journal for days, and I got specific about the state of my heart. I dismissed the lies I embraced from my past, and my faith helped me to believe for more.

Six weeks later, by a miracle of God, I met Chad, and a year later I was married. There is no magic formula to marriage. I am not implying one. The principle I want to highlight is to open your heart to personal wholeness and let go of the past. Open your heart to faith, and allow God to show you His best intent for you.

Thriving Thought Awareness:

1. What is the current state of your heart? Is it open or closed?
2. Are you willing to invest a period of your time this year to do a heart inventory?  What are the roadblocks to believing for God’s best in your life?
3. What are the beautiful qualities about you? Please take time to brag about your strengths?
4. Do you have any negative views about the opposite sex? Those issues must also be resolved in order to live with an open heart.

 

Ecclesiates 3:11 ( NLT) “Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart…”

Sandy Myers, CPC is a Certified Professional Coach, Speaker,  and founder of Thrive Now Coaching. She specializes in helping women  align their lives to their purpose, promote self-awareness,  and gain  personal fulfillment in their current roles of influence.

She brings over 10 years of work experience in the areas of sales, counseling, coaching, and non-profit organization. Sandy is active leader at her church in Kissimmee, FL, and enjoys teaching and motivating people. She posts weekly articles and podcasts on her website, www.thrivenowcoaching.com.  Contact Sandy via her website for a FREE 30 min coaching consult.

The Dream Girl

The Dream Girl is a strong, secure, confident woman who knows exactly who she is and exactly what she wants.  The Dream Girl has taken time out of her life to spend some much needed quality time with herself, and the Lord. The Dream Girl has taken on the task of getting to know her better.  Although scary at first, she looks within to discover areas in her life that need to be fine-tuned, pruned and re-shaped.

You see, the Dream Girl wants to be a better woman, because she’s aware that as she focuses on herself, and becomes a whole woman, she will begin to attract the same whole man. That’s right! There is a process to being found by the man that has been set aside for you. It starts with YOU!  There are times when you are looking and focused so hard on where “he” is that you forget that it’s you that must clean up your act first in order to be ready for this man to enter your life

Sometimes you may wrestle with yourself and with God, trying to move ahead of him and his timing for your imminent destiny.  There is much work to be done to be a whole woman.  Today, begin embracing this magnificent process.  The time you have alone, and patiently wait to be found, it’s a time where you can begin to grow from the inside out. As you yield to the will of the Lord for your life, he will begin working on your character, emotions, spirituality, and your esteem.  Through growth, wisdom and being okay in your own skin, your heart is being prepared for the man who is on his way to you. This process has a purpose. The purpose is to make you more self-assured and positive of the amazing woman you are. 

Now you are ready! When the Lord presents your partner to you, you will be able to maintain who you are throughout your relationship with a man. You won’t lose your friends; you won’t give up your career or your hobbies. You will in fact, keep your edge, and have an enormous amount of self-respect. Due to this increased self-worth that exudes from you, your partner will notice these qualities about you and be drawn to you even more. Remember Dream Girl, The person who is least dependent on the outcome of the relationship will automatically draw the other person in.

Once you believe that you are an amazing woman and a phenomenal catch, the man that has been set aside for you will believe that same sentiment. Take another look within, you are being transformed into a Dream Girl.